A wise thing called life is teaching me the following. Though it might seems stupid or basic, sometimes it’s good to get a reminder once in awhile.
Four phrases that lead to wisdom:
I was wrong;
I need help;
I’m sorry; and,
I don’t know.
It’s okay to say these words. Please say these words!
It’s okay to ask for help.
It’s hard, sometimes it hurts, and sometimes it’s not worth it. Asking for and receiving help are complicated, but if you’re willing to be open enough to connect with others, you’ll realize that you’re not as alone as you sometimes feel. Although it can be difficult, it’s okay to keep finding help for yourself, and to keep asking for it in different ways.
It’s okay to be vulnerable.
All four of these phrases require some vulnerability. The thing is, the more you say them, the easier it gets.
As much as you might feel the world will look down on you, whether it’s because you go against norms (be they gender, race, sexuality, ability, religion, age, or appearance), or because everyone else seems fine, or because you seem fine ... vulnerability is a step towards healing.
Complete vulnerability is another thing. It can be unbelievably difficult to open yourself up to someone, and if it backfires, you might never, ever want to do so again. Personally, I hate it. But it’s paid off before, so I’ll keep trying.
It’s okay to take care of yourself.
Whether or not you find this a difficulty, sometimes it’s better to recharge your energy and your empathy and just take time for yourself.
Do some typical introspective activities, or some atypical ones; whatever makes you feel better.
You’re not disconnecting from other people, you’re connecting with yourself.
It’s okay to call people out.
If something hurts you, of if you think something’s wrong, speak up. Please. Do so respectfully, explain your reasoning, and sometimes, agree to disagree.
It’s okay to be yourself. It’s okay to be different.
Even in a world that seems as unwelcoming as a thousand degree furnace.
It’s okay to not be completely yourself.
Sometimes the heat gets a little too much.
And because this post was fairly hypocritical and I only live by these things about 88% of the time,
It’s okay to be hypocritical and contrary and confused and afraid and unsure.
It’s not okay to make fun of people for asking for help, or for being vulnerable, or for taking care of themselves, or for calling people out, or for being themselves, or for not being themselves.
Please stay mindful and empathetic.
Phrases sourced from Louise Penny’s Chief Inspector Gamache series.
Note: We’ve decided to include a section at the bottom of our post in which we highlight some events that have occurred in the past week, as a reminder of what to keep in the back of our minds as we go about our lives.
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Our thoughts are with those fleeing fires in Northern Italy, those close to the victims of the air strikes in Eastern Libya, and those recovering from the hurricanes and tropical storms around the Atlantic and the Caribbean. We hope that the leaders and citizens of countries affected will think, act and react with kindness, empathy and a sense of justice. We pledge to do the same when we are affected by events like these. We pledge to be mindful of events occurring, to be grateful for our safety, to share the stories of our fellow humans, and to do whatever we can to prevent further crises from happening.